Have you set a date yet? I feel like this is easily one of the top questions asked after you get engaged, perhaps right after being asked about how the proposal went down. Getting engaged is an exciting thing, so family and friends asking (tons of) questions and being curious about all the fun details is a normal reaction.

I’ve been chatting with some excited newly engaged couples who haven’t quite landed on a date yet. If you’re like them, recently engaged and don’t have a date nailed down yet, don’t panic! Enjoy the excitement a little and when you’re ready to pick a date, here are some tips to consider:

What’s Already on Tap: This may be an obvious place to start, but look at your schedules – work, school, and current obligations already on the calendar. My husband worked in NASCAR when we got engaged, so we were pretty bound by the (long) race schedule. (Seriously, it’s one of the longest professional sports seasons. We used to joke it runs from Valentine’s Day to Thanksgiving!) That left us the options of getting married on the rare off-weekend, or waiting for the off season. We opted for the off season.

Take stock of what commitments and obligations you both might have, and consider what might work best for the people that you both feel are crucial to being there with you on your wedding day. NOTE: You will NOT please everyone with your wedding date and will drive yourself crazy trying to do so. Go with what works for YOU and what makes YOU happy, what works for those that you couldn’t imagine not being there, and set the date.

Budget + Don’t Rule Out Winter: It’s important to talk about the financial aspect early, too. A lot of couples don’t necessarily have a solid idea of what costs are associated with weddings, which is fine (and something we can help you with, too!). But it’s important to have this discussion between the two of you, consider what you might be contributing, and then have that conversation with who else might be contributing as well.

And how does this fit into picking a wedding date? There are definitely peak times of the year to get married – like May, June, September, October. Don’t rule out the winter. If you are open to it, some venues offer “off-season” rates for months like December, January and even February. This may vary by market, and of course, will vary by venue. But it’s worth keeping in mind while you weigh when to get married.

Be Open Minded: So maybe you don’t have a date picked, but you have your heart set on a certain venue. You reach out only to discover it’s booked solid every Saturday already. Have to have that venue? Be open minded. Ask if they are open to Friday or Sunday weddings. (I really, really, really think a brunch wedding would be fun. Any takers?!)

Mother Nature: She sure can be unpredictable. But let’s be honest. We all know it’s hot in the summer in the south. I never, ever want to crush anyone’s dreams of an outdoor wedding in July. I just always encourage clients to really think through what they – and their guests! – might experience. (Like…lots of sweating.) Consider what kind of experience is important to you and your guests, and how the weather might impact that.

And speaking of weather, we always come up with inclement weather plans especially with any wedding or event with a portion of it outdoors. Because…rain. If tenting isn’t your jam or in your budget, then focus on finding a venue with plenty of space to move things indoors should the need arise.

We know there are so many factors that can go into picking your wedding date. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, let us help you. That’s what we are here for!


Happy New Year! Getting back into the work groove after some quality time away for the holidays with family and friends. I’m trying to use this ol’ blog a little more this year, so thought I’d kick it off by dusting off an oldie but goodie blog post: 5 tips for after you get engaged!

Did you know that from Thanksgiving through Valentine’s Day it’s like the “official” engagement season? While I’d like to think the whole year is open season – I got engaged in the middle of July! – most engagements do happen to take place over the holidays.

Whether you saw it coming from miles away or the love of your life caught you completely by surprise, getting engaged is such an exciting time in life. Your head may spin from excitement for days after the question is popped…and let’s be honest, probably from the celebratory bubbly, too! But it might start to spin when it comes to sorting out what to do next. (So many options. And probably SO many opinions, too!)

I love helping couples navigate this exciting time, so here are five tips for what to do after that ring lands on your finger…

Share the Happy News: Whether you spread the word right away or opt to keep the excitement between just the two of you for a moment, either way those closest to you will want to hear the happy news. Pick up that phone and call family first. (And I know some family dynamics can be tricky, but I like to think it’s just not worth it for momma or Aunt Susie to find out via Facebook!) Then hit up those close friends. And get ready to celebrate!

Photo by Sarah Pascutti Photography
Photo by Sarah Pascutti Photography

Get That Sparkler Insured: This one may be a no-brainer, but be sure to get your ring insured as soon as possible after you get engaged. While dealing with or sorting out insurance of any kind might sound like a bore (hello, #adulting), you don’t want to risk not having this special piece of jewelry protected. An appraisal by a certified gemologist more than likely was provided by the jeweler where your ring was purchased. But if not, be sure to get one.

Celebrate!: Unless you need to hop on the wedding planning train stat due to some extenuating circumstances (i.e. moving abroad, military deployment, etc.), ENJOY this time. Take some time to just soak it in just the two of you and be sure to celebrate with friends and those who love you. Set a day aside or spend a weekend or shoot, even a month. But just relax and enjoy it. And don’t focus all that much on planning (yet). Life moves at a breakneck speed. Why not revel in this happy time for a bit?

Set a Date: Friends and family – and bless, even strangers when they see your new sparkly ring – will immediately ask if you have a date set. It’s a happy life moment, so their excitement and reaction is normal. Don’t sweat it if right away you don’t have a date set or even one in mind. Do set aside some time though early on to discuss setting a date – after you take some time to celebrate, of course! (And stay tuned…I’ve got tips coming on setting that all important wedding date!)

Go Pro: Bring in a professional to help you. I love working with couples at any stage in the planning process. But if I can work with clients from the beginning, even better. There is SO much information out there on where to start with wedding planning and what to do. Not to mention, your friends and family – and again, even strangers – will have all kinds of advice. Having someone working alongside you is an incredible benefit and might even save you from some unnecessary wedding planning headaches. Believe it or not, we might even save you money! I would love to help you start the planning process off on the right foot, from setting the budget to even helping you navigate setting that all important date.

Newly engaged and embarking on the wedding planning journey? I’d love to connect with you!

Congrats and Cheers!

Photo by Sarah Pascutti Photography
Photo by Sarah Pascutti Photography | Styling by Hart & Co. Events